The Will Of God

The Will of God

“I always think of a story I heard

on Christian radio,” she says

crossing her large arms

washboard hands

“About a woman

abused for years

by her husband.

He became a Christian.

It’s all worthwhile then.”


Abundant life

beat your wife

or girl

or child

or me.

The lie of a woman

sleeping with Satan’s servant



Be saved by my grace

the heroine

the martyr.

“It’s all worthwhile”

To the black and blue children

hiding beneath the stairs.


To you praising the golden calf

you’re beat with.

Unending peace joy and happiness

will be mine

for my sorrow.

“The will of God,” she says

“for man and woman.

Let no man split apart”

her lip, her skull, her heart

“what God has brought together.”

Serve the god who beats you

around whom life revolves.


My God says

“My plans for you are plans for good

and not for evil.”

My Love says


R. Trotter


I wrote this during and angsty time in my mid 20s. I’ve made it available from time to time for those doing work in the area of domestic violence*. I’m not sure if it’s helpful or not. But the conversation that opens the poem really did happen. I would hope that this idea of winning an abuser by staying with them has lost all credibility, but I’m sure it still gets trotted out from time to time. Which is such a shame. Not only should no one have to live with violence, but the reality is that the only way really dysfunctional people change is when its gets too hard and uncomfortable not to. Staying just delays the point at which they might feel compelled to deal with their own problems. It does no one – not the abuser and certainly not the abused – any good to allow such situations to continue.

BTW, if you enjoy my poetry you should get a copy of my book The Upside Down World ~ A Book of Wisdom in Progress. It includes several poems not available anywhere else including Stars, A Man with Many Lovers and The Trotter Family Love Poem. The book also contains essays, the story of my coming to faith and other writings not available here on the site. It is available both in print and ebook format from Amazon.

*If you would like to use this poem for use with any domestic violence program, please contact me at for permission.

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