Probably the most pervasive problem that trauma survivors deal with is not being believed on account of not sounding, looking, acting or thinking how people think a victim should in the aftermath of the trauma.
If we smile or laugh, we’re lying because we should be grief stricken.
If we cry hysterically, we’re acting because we’re over the top.
If we stumble over our words, we’re having a hard time keeping our lies straight.
If we speak eloquently, we’re lying because we’re too composed.
If we throw ourselves into another dangerous situation, we’re lying because we should be seeking safety.
If we hide away, we’re lying and can’t withstand people asking questions.
If we don’t tell anyone, we’re lying because if it happened, we’d tell people.
If we shout what happened from the rooftops, we’re lying to get attention.
If we become an activist, we’re lying for personal gain.
If we never want to speak of the subject again, we’re lying because we should want to fix it.
If our traumatized brains have a hard time remembering details or maintaining focus, that’s evidence we’re lying.
If we are calm, cool, collected and on point, then we’re lying because we should be struggling to hold ourselves together.
It literally doesn’t matter what trauma victims do or how we react, there are people who will use it as evidence against us. Why? Because some people are evil, pure and simple. Remember this as you watch the way some people are talking about the kids and parents speaking out after the Parkland shooting. Those who have partnered with evil are exposing themselves. Pay attention to these people and don’t forget who they are. Not everyone is a good person.