Getting to know yourself can be one of the biggest, most difficult jobs we will ever undertake. But you can’t properly love yourself – or even really like yourself! – if you don’t know who you are. If you don’t know who you are, how will you know what about yourself there is to love?
Occassionally take some time to listen to yourself. Sit quietly and think of a topic or question you are interested in. Usually, when you do this a pat answer will immediately pop into your head. This is the standard answer that you think is supposed to be the right one. Let that answer fade away and listen for what pops into your brain next. Notice any feelings that come up. Ask yourself lots of follow-up questions.
“Why do I feel this way?”
“Why do I think this?”
“Is it true?”
“Does it make sense to me?”
“Is this what I want to be true? Why?”
Just listen to what you have to say. Usually it’s much more interesting and enlightening than the pat answers you normally come up with!