Beware the unsocialized homeskoollers!

You know how sometimes you hear someone express an opinion which demonstrates clearly that they actually have no idea what they are talking about? Like that poor girl from the Miss Teen USA contest whose answer to the question, “why do you think so many Americans can’t find the USA on a map?” became the stuff of youtube legend. That’s generally how I feel about people who express any of the following “objections” to homeschooling:

They won’t know how to function in the real world.

They won’t get the experience of dealing with people with different religious beliefs.

They won’t have to learn to deal with people of different races.

They won’t know people who are poor.

They will be exposed to only one way of thinking.

Anyone who has homeschooled, has already had to deal with this sort of ignorance posing as “concern”. Unfortunately, 9 times out of 10, what one finds is that the person isn’t really concerned at all, and nothing you say, no amount of reason or reality will shake them from their preconceived ideas. It is precisely for these sort of people that a variety of pro-homeschooling t-shirts have started to be made. I’m broke, so I won’t be getting any myself anytime soon (I do take paypal if anyone would like to help out with this situation), but I found them amusing and thought I’d pass them on.

For a summary of research into how homeschoolers do in the real world, check here. For my take on some of the concerns people claim to have about homeschoolers check here.

And finally for my beloved son Noah, there’s this one:

10 thoughts on “Beware the unsocialized homeskoollers!

  1. Consider how schools attempt to socialize kids.

    The put kids exactly the same age together in a series of activities and hope things work out.

    I think you can find lots of people who thought their junior high or high school years were some of the worse years they ever spent. Lots of clicks and often a social caste system.

    So do kids become socialize because or inspite of their public school.

  2. I will never regret homeschooling my now young adult kids when they were little. Looking back, I would not trade those years for anything (although I must admit there were times during my homeschooling years when I felt like tearing my hair out!)

    One of the main objections people voiced during our years of homeschooling was the socialization issue. If anything, I found that I usually needed to curtail my kids’ social time during those years. Between Scouts, Awanas, Sunday School, Field Trips, Homeschool Support Group Meetings, and time with friends, we stayed pretty busy!

    Keep at it. They really do grow up too fast!

  3. Very funny. You know, I have to work (see my last comment). I don’t think I could home school and can’t see my husband doing it, but I figure a woman with the sense of sarcasm you have will do a fine job.

  4. We homeschool our five children with one having graduated and now in college. I drive for a limousine service and somehow conversation seems to often get to into homeschooling with my passengers. Most of the time the first question has to do with socialization. I feel that homeschooling has better equipped my children to converse (or socialize) with people of all ages.

  5. I was home schooled.

    I’d say 4 out of the 5 “preconceived ignoran[t] ideas” are true in my case. 3 out of the 5, as far as I could tell, were true of the “homeschooling socialization group” or whatever that was supposed to substitute for genuine interactions. I’m still figuring out how to function in the real world, still trying to really think scientifically and mathematically, and how to function socially even to the limited extent of forming workplace friendships and alliances. Of course learning is an ongoing process for all of us, but I’m talking basic stuff that somehow everyone I know that went to real schools knew.

    I was never an outgoing person, particularly when young. But I was homeschooled during puberty and adolescence, exactly the time when I could have been reinventing and reorienting myself, and instead I was kept away until it was too late to approach my new self through the fresh eyes of others. It’s not necessarily the fault of homeschooling but it absolutely is a harmful influence on anyone vulnerable to it. Now I’m doing my best to learn how to function as an adult, which is tough to do afresh when everyone else has a 10 year head start on me and takes it for granted.

    Far better to enroll children in the public schools and be an involved parent. Yes, the school system is rife with shortcomings. Do what you can to help; that benefits all children, not just your own. Talk to your child at home and help them with their homework. Discuss your thoughts with them. This way they have seen the real world (with all its warts, busywork, and nonsense) and know both how it works and how you want them to behave in it. Then maybe you’ll have a chance they won’t do their best to discard the whole childhood experience.

    1. I know a lot of grownups that were homeschooled, and then have gone above and beyond others that went to public school.

  6. I am a Homeschooler, and I DO socialize with other people. I feel that I do it more so then kids that are in public school, because when I’m with kids my age I get to TALK with them – not pass notes and say two word sentences.

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